Path: bloom-picayune.mit.edu!snorkelwacker.mit.edu!americast.com!americast.com!americast-post Newsgroups: americast.twt.metro From: americast-post@AmeriCast.Com Organization: American Cybercasting Approved: americast-post@AmeriCast.com Subject: Love can be just as fine second time Date: Fri, 30 Oct 92 15:33:28 EST Message-ID: \SE B;METROPOLITAN;COMICS;DEAR ABBY \SS (WS) \HD Love can be just as fine second time \BY Abigail Van Buren \CR UNIVERSAL PRESS SYNDICATE DEAR ABBY: I am a widow, just turned 50. I am in good health and love to travel. I was married for 29 years to the most ideal man in the world. I honestly feel that there is no man on Earth as perfect as my late husband. We have two grown children. Donald and I were very compatible, loving and affectionate until the end. I miss his companionship. We were each other's best friend. He was always telling me how happy I made him. We had a perfect marriage. Abby, I would like to meet someone who will appreciate me and love me. I know that good men are hard to find, and I could make some man very happy. Where do I start looking? And is it true that people who have had good marriages are the ones who get married sooner? - LAURA (NOT MY REAL NAME) DEAR LAURA: Yes, it's true. You "start looking" by looking your best and letting your friends know that you would be interested in meeting a gentleman who is good company and that you would like to get back into circulation. Traditionally, people meet nice people through the generosity of their friends. (And I'm sure there is a special place in heaven for the matchmaking angel who is constantly "fixing up" dates for singles.) Get out of the house and get involved in the community. Get a job, go back to school, enroll in some adult education classes, learn to paint or sew, or volunteer your services. Work with your church, the Red Cross, your political party, the underprivileged, the disabled, the mental health society - the list is endless. They need volunteers - that's where worthwhile people meet other worthwhile people. And now, may I offer you a little unsolicited advice? Should you meet a gentleman whom you find attractive, the less said about your husband, the better. DEAR ABBY: A few years ago, you had a letter about a couple who were soon to celebrate their 50th wedding anniverary. Their children requested that in lieu of gifts their friends write a brief letter recalling a memory the writers had shared with the anniversary couple. My parents will soon be married 50 years, and I would like to do something similar for their anniversary. Unfortunately, I misplaced the article. Would you please run it again? I'm sure other readers would appreciate it, too. - M.M. IN EVANSVILLE, IND. DEAR M.M.: Here it is: "The children of Iver and Helen Dahl invite you to celebrate with them the 50th wedding anniverary of their parents. A reception will be held May 7 at 2 p.m. at the Elmhurst Country Club. "We request your help in compiling a book that recalls memories from our parents' first 50 years of marriage. On the enclosed sheet, we ask that you write one memory or experience that you have shared with them and return it to us by April 26. We believe that the loving memories they have shared with you, their friends, would be the most treasured gift they could receive; therefore, we request that no other gift be sent." Want your phone to ring? Get Abby's booklet, "How to Be Popular" - for people of all ages. To order, send a long, business-size, self-addressed envelope, plus check or money order for $3.95 ($4.50 in Canada) to: Dear Abby, Popularity Booklet, PO Box 447, Mount Morris, Ill. 61054. Postage is included. This article is copyright 1992 The Washington Times. Redistribution to other sites is not permitted except by arrangement with American Cybercasting Corporation. For more information, send-email to usa@AmeriCast.COM