To: nathanw@mit.edu, sheeri@cs.brandeis.edu
Subject: sex party invitation stage 2: the list [updated]
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From: nathanw@mit.edu (Nathan J. Williams)
Date: 10 Jul 2000 11:31:31 -0400
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[I inadvertently left a person off the list in the initial
 mail. Apologies for the extra traffic.]

Thank you for responding to our initial party invitation. We've been
quite pleased at the response rate, and we hope that all of you will
be able to attend the event (Remember: Saturday 22 July).

Stage 2: Sunday 9 July 2000

 - We will send out a list of everybody who has affirmatively
   RSVP'd. People who have declined or failed to respond will not be
   sent this list.
 - At this point, we will again ask for RSVP's, based on the
   prospective guest list. Remember that you will not have to engage
   in sexual activity with anyone at the party if you choose not to do
   so. You may RSVP yes or no, again to either Nathan or Sheeri. 
 - If your attendance will be conditional on the presence or absence of
   other persons on the list, you may tell us your constraints. This
   is not required. We will not reveal these constraints to other
   people, nor use them to influence others. We will, at stage 3
   (below), inform you whether your constraint has been met. 

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* RSVP's for this stage MUST be received by 10pm Monday 17 July 2000. *
* Send RSVP's to nathanw@mit.edu and sheeri@cs.brandeis.edu           *
***                                                                 ***

Here is the list of people who have indicated interest in the party:

Christa Ansbergs
Lyudmila (Lucy) Borodavkina
Jeremy Daniel
Joe Foley
Pete Gamache
Pete Gast
Heather Hooper
Lara Karbiner
Angie Kelic
Daniele Lantagne
Cana McCoy
Cheryl McSweeney
Eric Mumpower
Sybil Shearin
Richard Tibbetts
Aletta Wallace

and, of course, your fabulous and sexy host and hostess.

If you know that you will not be able to attend, please let us know
with a negative RSVP, or we will assume that you will be attending.

If you have a conflict with someone on the list that would prevent you
from attending, you may tell us, and we will inform you whether your
constraint is met at stage 3, July 19. Please remember that you are
not required to do anything sexual with anyone.  However, we want
everyone to be comfortable.

We will *not* be asking anyone not to attend based on conflicts
presented by other people.

Conflicts have the form, "I do not want to go if <name> will be
there."  We will not be telling anyone your conflict.  We will not use
your conflict to influence other people to be absent from the party.

For example, if Nathan has a conflict with Sheeri, and Sheeri decides
to attend given the invite list, Nathan will be told that Sheeri will
be attending.  It is up to Nathan to decide whether or not to attend
based on that information.  In the event that two people have mutual
conflicts (for example, Sheeri doesn't want to attend if Nathan
attends and vice versa) they will both be told the other is showing up
(so in all likelihood neither will show up).

If you have questions about this or any other aspect of the party,
please feel free to ask us. You can send the question to only one of
us if you aren't comfortable sending it to both of us.

A note about toys: This party is about fun, safe, fun, consensual, fun
activities.  Feel free to bring dildos, butt plugs, vibrators, and
strap-ons, but please leave the BDSM toys at home. Also remember that
toys should be cleaned, protected with latex where relevant, and
otherwise used safely.


	Yours in sex-soaked bureaucracy,

	Nathan and Sheeri
	nathanw@mit.edu, sheeri@cs.brandeis.edu

	

