Now, the examples are extreme, and the examples aren't quite prayer; I do think, however, that they are examples of "expressions of the spirit." In my definition, prayer is an "expression of the spirit" directed to God (the Light, Jesus, whoever is the highest good you know) --- and hopefully receiving (perceiving) some kind of response. Extending warmth and awe to other people or spirits is usually great, but it's not quite prayer.
But it's easy to direct one's thoughts at a puppy, or to perceive the good qualities of a puppy. How about God? How can we direct our thoughts to God (much less receive God's reply)? I mean, some say God's in Heaven, some say God is within, some say lots of things, but they don't usually help us actually find God to talk with Him.
First of all, God's got very good hearing, so it's better to pray than to just despair (or, say, deride) and not pray. And secondly, the more we learn how to elevate our spirits to joy, to operate with the goal of helping others foremost in our minds, the more we learn to recognize God. Each of us has some way of finding that path to God, even though it might not work for someone else. The more we can see God's glory in everything, the more we can see God. If that makes sense. And being able to see God means we are more likely to perceive responses to our prayers --- or perceive an impetus or a reason to pray. (How's that for recursion?)
And yes, I think that repeating a well-worn, well-known poem of prayer under one's breath is still prayer --- as long as it's something you believe (or would very much like to believe). Perhaps prayer is an expression of human will reaching out to God; perhaps at some level it's an expression of existence, of being alive, of having spirit (or being a spirit) --- directed and offered up to the Source of life Itself.
Though the crews from God's network can try to help us, it is
ultimately up to us to configure our systems so that we can properly
and reliably connect to God's network, especially in such a way that
we don't accidentally get cracked by destructive nutcases, or so that
we don't accidentally (or purposefully) dial into other networks whose
goals are to corrupt, disrupt and destroy the primary network, sometimes
by pretending to be God's network, and sometimes by simply launching
outright attacks (too bad we don't know God's IP address - but heck,
I'll bet the deceivers could spoof that.).
What can God's network do for us via prayer? First of all, we should
ask not what it can do for us, but what we can do for it. That's one
of the keys for accessing it in the first place. However, that said,
God's network is there to help us not only help others, but to let us
download emergency supplies when we run low, to free ourselves of
attacks from nutcases, to help us purge unnecessary, space-eating
programs (and viruses) from our systems, and to help troubleshoot
hardware malfunctions (God does have a hardware repair crew, even
though we seemingly rarely see it in action). It even helps us
upgrade our systems with the latest software, whose ultimate purpose
is to help us connect to God's network all the better, until someday
we become an integral, shining part of it.
Translated to spiritual jargon, God and His network of caring souls
want us to use prayer to help others ("Love your neighbor") - but to
also use it as a means of bringing us closer to God ("Love God"), of
refreshing and recharging ourselves, of using it to get help in times
of spiritual problems and even daily problems. Prayer can grant us
guidance and insight; it can call forth angels to rescue
trouble-making spirits who haunt us; it can grant physical healing.
Not always, but when God deems it wise. More importantly, prayer
places us (with practice) in the cleaner atmosphere of God's domain,
in the communion of caring spirits, and under the wise direction of
God's will - so that we grow used to the pure and joyous home that
will be ours if we persevere and do not fall away. We arrive there
already mostly up to speed, and having already accomplished something
while we were away. In truth, we will have been living in Heaven even
while alive in physical form, because the act of true prayer is the
act of sharing the company of angels.
Well, that said, I'm sure people have other objections to
prayer....
We must help God. We can't sit where we are and expect things to
change. We must start the change within ourselves as well, and help
things along - because God wants us to use our free will, AND because
God wants us to grow in wisdom. The concept of "pro-activeness" is
not just found in business and management books; the concept of
"finding joy wherever you are" is not just for self-help sections. If
the same bad condition arises time and time again, stop and think:
What part do I have to play in this? What can I do better? In the
process, we learn wisdom. If God rescued us from the consequences of
our own mistakes all the time, we'd probably never learn. But since
we can't see clearly, we're bound to get stuck. That's often when
humble prayer - and a little effort on our own side - can help
most.
But the analogy is also like this: if a large building is burning, you
want a team of people: people handling the hoses, people going inside
to rescue people, people running the rescue equipment, a medical team,
someone directing the whole operation. Sometimes specialized rescue
equipment is needed, and of course firefighters are better trained
than the average person. One person alone can't fill the shoes of all
the firefighters by him or herself - in fact would be negligent if he
or she attempted to do so all alone - so s/he calls 911 first, or
makes sure that someone else is doing so before rushing in. Prayer
often fulfills the same role: calling a team (of God's angels) to come
help in times of need. So the theory is not handing one's problems
over to someone else, but of getting help from a trained team. And
indeed, sometimes problems require a team.
As for getting sick of prayer ... if it still seems boring ... a chore
... useless .... well, remember that studies have shown that prayer
actually helps others. Most spiritually aware people and good spirits
insist prayer is a powerful, if not the most powerful, tool that we
have. I have not found the secret of prayer myself, but surely this
is the frustration of a first-year violin student who can't get more
than a creaky rendition of "Twinkle Twinkle Little Star" going.
Someday those scratchy noises could turn into the soul-piercing notes
of Beethoven's Violin Concerto, which has the power to move the heart
and mind. But it takes practice, self-discipline, patience, and the
ability to get back up after really embarrassing mistakes made in
front of lots of people.
In answer to this, there are three things to consider.
One: Many pray-ers consciously or unwittingly send out their own
energy to the subject of their prayer. It's not God's energy per se,
but each individual person's. So, if you have 1000 people praying for
a child, that's a lot more energy than, say, just one person praying.
On the other hand, the single person may well love more strongly than
the other 999 combined, which probably has an effect on the result.
Secondly, God's Kingdom may well be really be like a network,
as suggested earlier. This theory says that God deliberately set up
our societies like the cells and organs in the body. It is not a
muscle cell's fault if, for some reason, a blood vessel is blocked and
oxygen cannot reach it. But the more blood vessels leading to an
area, the more likely it is to survive a blockage and to thrive in
general. The Internet is again another example: The more paths to a
particular computer, the more likely it is that an email will arrive
during times of internet problems. But why have a network in the
first place? Probably because it makes us take responsibility for our
own actions. We can help reach out to other people; we can expand
God's network (family); we can play instrumental roles in others'
lives so that all of us learn more about love and compassion. Or we
can choose to drop out of the equation - and hope that we do not see
the aftermath. God may well trust us enough to give us such a weighty
power: the ability to truly make a difference to other people, whether
negative or positive.
Thirdly: Who says God might not intervene in secret ways for the
lonely orphan without a pray-er? Or who says that God might not have
a hidden plan for that child? Based on testimony from Near Death
Experiencers, it seems likely (to me) that we do not even see the tip
of the iceburg when it comes to God's active caring for us. While God
may show us the power of prayer when a miraculous healing occurs after
thousands pray for a child, we may well miss the miracles that happen
for the lonely person who suffers alone and unknown.
If you can't elevate, pray to God anyway, but remember that any
perceived answers may not be trustworthy - you are more likely to be
tuning into the more selfish parts of the spiritual spectrum. (Even if
you can elevate, though, you should always, ALWAYS check any replies
for the fruit of the Holy Spirit.)
Some say that our best teachers are ourselves. Well, maybe.
Certainly we can act from a gut sense of right and wrong. However,
seeing how many self-depending people are screwing up in this world,
we can safely assume that people who depend solely on their own wisdom
are often following an unreliable guide.
On the other hand, wanting to rely on an outside "spirit guide" has led
more people to deceptive false angels than any other desire I've seen.
Pray not for spiritual guides, but for Spiritual guidance. Pray not
for help, but God's wisdom. Pray not for gain, but for the opportunity
to help others.
So what's the solution to the prayer problem? It's recursive, but
here it is: Pray. Pray for truth, wisdom, love, the blessing of God;
pray especially for others who need help. But not only pray, but do
the things of God: care for others, actively and physically. Fight
your internal failings (selfishness, pride, material desires,
addictions, etc). And then return to prayer. This is the beginning
of the upward cycle. It's a tough road - a very, very tough road,
whose pitfalls and snares some of my other documents barely touch
upon. This is a road that few wish to really travel (trust me, it
sucks sometimes), but which leads us up to true salvation.
And it's certainly not for wimps!
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"What the heck is prayer for?"
At the moment, I think it's like dialing into (or telnetting into, or
cd'ing into) the biggest, most powerful computer system in the world.
It just happens to have a primary fileserver whose maintainer has
infinite power and wisdom, whose intent is that no computer user in
the world should ever become totally lost and hopeless, and who has
the distinction of having designed all our systems. God's network is
the universal help-desk or sysadmin agency, if you will, and is
especially important because all of us originally came from that
network (though we fell off somehow). "Prayer doesn't work"
Asking God to directly intervene for some reason doesn't often seem to
work (especially when it comes to psychic attacks some of us
experience). Asking God to send His agents to help for some reason
seems to work better. God's spiritual network of "agents" isn't just
for show; it's there to work. But remember that God's replies aren't
often what we expect. "Please rescue me from my pit of despair"
doesn't necessarily lead to a sudden burst of spiritual sunshine.
Instead it might be hours - days - later, when one suddenly has the
opportunity to give a bit of sunshine to someone else, and in doing so
is lifted from despair "naturally." Or perhaps it occurs months
later, after one has laboriously learned the tools necessary for
being able to sustain a bit of sunshine."Prayer is for people who can't solve their own problems"
Heh heh. Yeah, it's a crutch for some people. Keep in mind people
need a crutch when they've sprained their ankles, though. "Please
pick me up" is sometimes the whine of a fallen child - but sometimes
it is the true, heart-felt cry of a troubled soul who just can't make
ends meet. Is it wrong to loan money to a college student who can't
afford school? It's outside help, but no one (or very few) people
consider it a bad thing to invest money like that, and the recipient
usually doesn't consider it "wimpy" or "weak" to accept a loan."What's 2-Way Prayer?"
2-way prayer is the act of praying to God and then receiving a reply.
Certain things we do can help ensure we don't accidentally wind up
paying attention to false angels masquerading as God's messengers. See this document!
"Prayer is draining and burdensome"
Prayer, especially prayer for others who are ill, in trouble, or
stressed, can indeed feel burdensome and draining. This is true even
of one-way prayer, and even when we are not necessarily trying to
actively bless the recipient of our prayer. (Yes, even praying "God,
Thy will be done for this person" can do this!) Whether we know it or
not, our prayers often connect us to the one in need, and our
spiritual energy goes out toward them (potential energy
differentials). Hence, we may be drained. Elevating one's own spirit
to the point of connecting to God's gracious love permits one to
re-energize. Elevate first, before praying."Why does God play favorites with those who
have many others praying for them?"
This issue goes as follows: Imagine a poor orphan child who is ill.
No one is there to pray for him. Now imagine an affluent child who is
ill, whose parents hop on the internet and distribute prayer requests,
and who call up their pastor and get the child's name distrubted to
200 people within a week. Why is it God is said to help those with
more pray-ers? Isn't that unfair to those who are lonely or
isolated?"If prayer is like playing a violin, where's my teacher?!??"
First and most primary: remember to always try to elevate your spirit
toward God's realm of peace, joy, thankfulness, and love of others
before (and while) you pray. This allows you to connect to God, and
to those of God - and their instruction can reach you in ways you at
first may not notice. (Honestly, it may even take years before we
become aware of any divine help. By gum, patience is important.)
A useful little guide
to prayer from a convent.